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Love it! Words of Wisdom!

Some people have not learned this! Im glad at 24 years of age I can finally say Ive got a good grasp!

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/08/11/7-ways-to-give-an-apology-4-ways-to-accept-one/

9 Signs You Might Be Selfish

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• by HybridMom, on Tue Jul 19, 2011 8:03am PDT

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I’ve been thinking about the meaning of the word “selfish” for a while, ever since various people hurled that insult my way. This post is about some conclusions I’ve reached. I believe it applies to marriage, friendship, family life, and online interactions.
But first, two definitions.
Selfish = Focusing on one’s own needs, wants, desires and pleasures. Not focusing on the needs, wants, desires and pleasures of others.
Selflessness = Having little to no concern for one’s own needs, wants, desires and pleasures, but showing lots of concern for the needs of others.
Now for the list.

1. Everyone is selfish sometimes. Unless you are a canonized Saint or an enlightened being, then you are probably a lot like me. Sometimes you behave selfishly. Other times you behave selflessly. Refusing to admit this is both selfish and misguided.
2. If you think you deserve to be canonized as a Saint, then you are selfish. The desire to have others know you, revere you, and recognize you is a self-focused desire. You will be truly selfless if someone offers to canonize you and you turn down that offer by saying, “Oh, no, this other person deserves it and would benefit from that a lot more than I would. Please give this other person the honor. I do not deserve it or need it.” This holds true for any title of recognition.
3. It’s selfish to call someone else selfish. By accusing others of being selfish, you are attempting to bring others down and peg and yourself up a peg. This is, by nature, a self-focused action. You are motivated by concern for your own reputation and not by your concern for the well-being of others.
4. Selflessness breeds happiness. Selfishness breeds unhappiness. If you are angry, worried, guilty, frustrated, depressed, envious, or jealous, you are probably focusing on yourself and your own needs and not on the needs of others. As soon as you stop focusing on yourself and start focusing on others, you will find that your negative feelings evaporate.
5. Selflessness can be scary. That’s why so few people manage to act selflessly all of the time. It requires a huge amount of trust and vulnerability. We are often our most selfish when we are terrified.
6. If you think some people deserve your help, but others don’t, there’s still a lot of selfish in you. It’s only once you can love every living being equally—no matter their race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, age, or political party—that you will have completely transcended selfishness.
7. Sometimes it’s selfless to be selfish. If you completely neglect your own needs and drain yourself dry, there will be no you left to focus on the needs of others. It is selfless to make sure you get enough rest, for instance. It’s easier to be selfless when you are rested, healthy, fit and well fed.
8. Sometimes it’s seemingly selfish to be selfless. In focusing on the needs of many others, you might have to neglect the needs of a few. The few who are neglected might selfishly accuse you of being selfish. As long as your actions were focused on helping others, this is not true. The ones who accuse you of being selfish are actually the ones who are selfish as they are the ones who are concerned about their own needs.
9. It’s selfless to forgive people for calling you selfish. After all they can’t learn how to be selfless unless they have role models like you to emulate. Also, as I mentioned, they are scared. If you respond to their show of selfishness with selflessness, you will show them what true courage looks like.

Matthew 5 Vs 1-14

Matthew 5

Introduction to the Sermon on the Mount

 ¹ Now when Jesus saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, ² and he began to teach them.

The Beatitudes

    He said:
   ³ “Blessed are the poor in spirit,
   for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
⁴ Blessed are those who mourn,
   for they will be comforted.
⁵ Blessed are the meek,
   for they will inherit the earth.
⁶ Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
   for they will be filled.
⁷ Blessed are the merciful,
   for they will be shown mercy.
⁸ Blessed are the pure in heart,
   for they will see God.
⁹ Blessed are the peacemakers,
   for they will be called children of God.
¹⁰ Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
   for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
   ¹¹ “Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. ¹² Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.

Salt and Light

    ¹³ “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.
   ¹⁴ “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. ¹⁵ Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. ¹⁶ In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.

How to make tissue "poms" or "paper flowers"

http://www.ehow.com/video_4429494_make-tissue-paper-flower.html

Emma Kates 3rd Princess Zebra Birthday!

Emma Kate ready for her 3rd Princess Zebra Birthday party!

Shirt orderd from ETSY.com!

Bow made by my friend, Nicki Kelly!

The Table set up--hot pink table cover with skirt

Centerpieces consisted of tissue paper pom flowers in a hot pink glitter bucket with hot pink sand to hold it in place! These were the the most time consuming decorations of the party, but soooooooooo worth it! Ill upload a video later of how to make them! :)

Hot Pink and Black cupcakes

Toppers were ordered in Birthday package from ETSY.com as well! I will upload the shop name later, too! :)

Cupcake holder I bought from Walmart! Can you believe it?

Table had Black table cover and skirt-Party City

Decorations (Happy Birthday Emma Kate, Emma Banner and cupcake toppers) were made and ordered from shop on Etsy.com. Ill upload shop address later.

Tulle bought, cut, and layered to go with Emma Banner and behind table

Same tissue paper pom flowers as on seating tables!

Gift Table

Black Table cover and skirt--party city

Zebra Crepe Paper on front hanging decor--Party City

Emma "3" birthday penant-Etsy shop ordered with package

Tissue Poms, lanterns, paper flowers, and streamers hanging above table at varying heights for decor--I made tissue poms, lanterns were bought at party city as well as the streamers

Balloons were ordered from Party City

Closeup view of Cupcakes

Center pieces--Tissue Paper pom flowers on black spray painted dowel rods (cut to size)

Small hot pink glitter bucket with hot pink Crayola Sand

"Emma" confetti on table

Picture underneath hanging decor--explained above

Another part of the Table...some people sitting down to eat. Not everyone was there yet!

Emmas Bow

Part 1 of the food table---From left to right--Food, Gift Bags, Chips, Bread, napkins (zebra pink and black), plates (zebra pink and black), and cups.

Emma's Princess Jumpy Castle

Instead of a "3" Candle--we found a 3 sparkler. She loved it!

My little poser!

Emma with My dad--Her PawPaw...She adores him! He made her day so special JUST BY BEING THERE!!!!!!

Our Family--Brother in Law Justin aka as Unka J, Katie, Maw D (Dianne), PaePae (Mr Mike), Me, And my wonderful Husband, Whitney. These people love and adore Emma so much..it makes me so happy to know how loved she is! No amount of money means anything compared to these relationships! They made Emma's Birthday So special! All of her guests did, but her family means so much!

My beautiful Mother, aka Mimi! She adores her Mimi and Mimi adores Emma Kate! This woman is always there for us and always supportive. Mimi made Emma's birthday so special!

One of Emma Kates Birthday Photos!



ABCs Of Tabitha

A - Age: 24

B - Bed size: Queen

C - Chore you hate: Laundry

D - Dog’s name: Isabelle, Jacque and Tasha

E - Essential start your day item: Toothpaste

F - Favorite color: Pink... obviously

G - God: Merciful

H - Height: 5’8

I - Insect I would like to be: Butterfly

J - Juice: Cranberry

K - Kids: Emma Kate Rogers 07/13/2008

L - Likes: My husband, My daughter, my job, make up, time with friends, time with family, dancing, fashion, exercising, reading, Facebook,  and shopping

M - Mom’s name: Angie (Angelia)

N - Nightly routine: Cook or buy dinner, spend time with family, watch some tv, work out,  bath, then bed!

O - Overnight hospital stay other than when you were born: Emma Kate's delivery

P - Pet Peeve: Lying, Making excuses, not texting back or returning phone calls

Q - Question: How long til vacation, again???????????????

R - Red or pink: Pink

S - Sibling(s): Taylor (sister) Coby (adopted brother) Haleigh (adopted sister) Jaylin (step sister)

T - Time you wake up: 6-7 am

U - Under my bed you will find: none ya business! But most probably dust mites..I rarely climb under there :) Shhh..dont tell anyone!

V - Vegetable you dislike: Celery yuck!

W - Ways you run late: Emma Kate! ;)

X - Xrays you have had: too many to count

Y - Yummy food you make: Does mac n cheese count??????

Z - Zoo favorite: Monkeys