re·spect (r-spkt)
tr.v. re·spect·ed, re·spect·ing, re·spects
1. To feel or show deferential regard for; esteem.
2. To avoid violation of or interference with: respect the speed limit.
3. To relate or refer to; concern.
n.
1. A feeling of appreciative, often deferential regard; esteem.
2. The state of being regarded with honor or esteem.
3. Willingness to show consideration or appreciation.
4. respects Polite expressions of consideration or deference
You can respect the rights of someone without respecting the person.
You can confer respect to a person without having any understanding of the abstract notion of rights.
Respect is a very general term.
Respecting children is one aspect of loving them , but it doesn't adequately explain what you are "doing" in relation to loving them.
A relationship is one of mutual respect, but can change once something has been done to harm the respect.
With that being said, Not everyone is ENTITLED to be respected. I feel there should be a level of respecting someone b/c they are human and God's child, but that in NO WAY gives them the right to continually hurt you or berate you. And that it turn does not REQUIRE respect to be given!
Children respect their parents because that is a requirement from God, but that doesnt mean there cant be a mutual respect to the child. And if you arent a parent to "that child", you are owed nothing but the basic respect everyone is given. That you are God's child and human!!!!
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
This Article hits close to home....
Although it isnt exactly like my situation, it sounds so familiar...and as I had said, hits close to home! I hope someone gets comfort, as I did, with this article...Knowing Im not the only one (family) going through this!
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/family-parenting-forums/23880-my-wife-hates-my-daughter-help.html
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/family-parenting-forums/23880-my-wife-hates-my-daughter-help.html
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Saturday, July 9, 2011
What a Tragedy..
Im so tired of the fake...The fake personality...The fake Christianity..The Fake love...The Fake relationships!
TIRED!
I completely understand why this person is they way they are, or atleast I think I do! They're damaged..(supposedly). For all we know every story they have ever spoken of could be false b/c they are a pathological liar! But, if its true they have a reason to be semi-broken, with this tragic life of theirs. Regardless, you should live forward not backwards. IF you have problems, you should deal with them! Let GOD take care of what you CANT! IF You're such an "awesome Christian" you should know how to "fix you"..and thats through Christ! Not force others to deal with your issues. Stop feeling sorry for yourself....and always "Woe is ME"! Take your meds, and MOVE ON!
No one is sitting around thinking about you, thinking about hurting you, ruining your marriage, or making you miserable. YOU choose to put that front and center in your life, and not MOVE forward and leave the PAST in the PAST!
I understand you're bi polar, I get you have psychotic episodes, I get you're crazy....But stop making others miserable BC you ARE and STOP driving others CRAZY!
No one wants what you have..mostly b/c everyone already has better and more...
If you truly love someone, you ARENT going to push them away from other people who are important to them. You WOULDNT cause issues, or continue to bring up ISSUES! You would sacrifice your own self and pride for your loved one...BELIEVE ME, That is all I have done!
With all of this being said...I understand now YOU CAN NOT RATIONALIZE WITH AN IRRATIONAL person, So I choose to not even try anymore! You will never be right, you will never be accepted, and you will never be loved. And because of that simple fact, things will most probably NEVER EVER change! SAD, but TRUE!
What a TRAGEDY!
TIRED!
I completely understand why this person is they way they are, or atleast I think I do! They're damaged..(supposedly). For all we know every story they have ever spoken of could be false b/c they are a pathological liar! But, if its true they have a reason to be semi-broken, with this tragic life of theirs. Regardless, you should live forward not backwards. IF you have problems, you should deal with them! Let GOD take care of what you CANT! IF You're such an "awesome Christian" you should know how to "fix you"..and thats through Christ! Not force others to deal with your issues. Stop feeling sorry for yourself....and always "Woe is ME"! Take your meds, and MOVE ON!
No one is sitting around thinking about you, thinking about hurting you, ruining your marriage, or making you miserable. YOU choose to put that front and center in your life, and not MOVE forward and leave the PAST in the PAST!
I understand you're bi polar, I get you have psychotic episodes, I get you're crazy....But stop making others miserable BC you ARE and STOP driving others CRAZY!
No one wants what you have..mostly b/c everyone already has better and more...
If you truly love someone, you ARENT going to push them away from other people who are important to them. You WOULDNT cause issues, or continue to bring up ISSUES! You would sacrifice your own self and pride for your loved one...BELIEVE ME, That is all I have done!
With all of this being said...I understand now YOU CAN NOT RATIONALIZE WITH AN IRRATIONAL person, So I choose to not even try anymore! You will never be right, you will never be accepted, and you will never be loved. And because of that simple fact, things will most probably NEVER EVER change! SAD, but TRUE!
What a TRAGEDY!
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
My Mother--Also known as MIMI!
My mother is the most beautiful person (inside and out) that I know. All of our lives she gave to us so un-selfishly! She would go with out new clothes or new cars or new anything to make sure we had what we need, and most of what we wanted. Growing up, I remember asking my self if she ever got a chance to relax, or take care of herself..and as I got older I realized she never had the chance.
She went to nursing school when we were young, and graduated with a high GPA--that's amazing considering she had to be a full time mom, wife, and student. I truly don't know how she did it, but she did. Her determination and will inspired me to always do better and never give up...
My mom was raised in church, although she left briefly, she went back. She met my dad when she was ONLY 14! And she was married at 16!!!! Can you believe someone finding their husband or wife at that age?? She did. I know God used my mom to reach my dad..She brought my dad to church and he was filled with the Holy Ghost. Both parents then re-dedicated their life to Christ and continued the LEGACY my Mawmaw Birdi started. They then raised us in truth. Truth that will be passed on from generation to generation. I love them for that!
Even though my mom has made mistakes, SHE will NEVER be tarnished in my eyes. We all do things we regret and we all do things we wish we could change, but those mistakes make us who we are. Make us stronger, more defined as a human, and closer to God after forgiveness. My mom and step dad are prayer warriors! They are up at the crack of dawn, and stay up late praying! They fast methodically...they Want our family to be saved and want our family to be blessed. Its awe inspiring. To constantly think and give to others, even when you don't have much for yourself.
My mom never meddles and gets messy. She never entertains DRAMA. She never instigates problems. She never allows things like that to creep in and control her life. No matter what names she is called (by certain drama queens or attention seekers), or how she is berated...she continually forgives and forgets all trespasses. She never holds a grudge and is always willing to "move on". She always takes the high road! She even prays for the people who hate or despise her! What a GODLY WOMAN!
My mom also took on being a foster parent about 4 years ago, one more thing to add to her "good Samaritan" file. She had quite a few kids come and go, but she has now adopted 2 children. My baby brother Coby (shes had since birth) and baby sister Haleigh. What an added joy to our lives. Having those children NEVER effects her relationship with Emma or me of my sister. Emma always has company and family to play with. Those relationships are unbreakable! She is such an amazing grandmother and mother. She always gives 110% to all of her relationships!
My mom is my best friend. We talk multiple times a day, even if for only a few seconds. No matter the time or hour, I know I can count on her to always be there for me. She has never allowed anyone to treat me badly, and does not stand for her children being hurt. I can only say how much I love and adore her, and I hope to be only HALF the woman she is today! I love you Momma!
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